The cheating ‘dilemma’

A new movie released tomorrow raised an interesting question: if you caught your best friend’s spouse cheating, what would you do?

That’s the premise behind “The Dilemma,” starring Vince Vaughn and Kevin James. They play best friends and partners in an auto design firm. But Ronny (Vaughn) catches Nick’s (James) wife making out with another guy. And that leaves him wondering what to do. (Read the New York Times review.)

It’s a common dilemma, actually, where you have information that’s both vital and hurtful to your friend.

Me? I’d tell her. Straight up. I wouldn’t let my girlfriend stay with someone who’s cheating on her. But I would have to be absolutely, positively sure her husband were cheating. Could you imagine if he wasn’t? You may have just ruined a marriage — and likely your friendship.

So I’m throwing it out there: if you caught your best friend’s significant other cheating, what would you do? Be honest and risk losing your friendship? Or keep it to yourself? After all, it’s none of your business, right?


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