A review of ‘Inside Out’ by a 4-year-old


Inside Out EmotionsIf you thought puberty was tough, try parenthood.

That’s the impression I walked away with after seeing Pixar’s “Inside Out.” My 4-year-old, of course, had a completely different take.

A little over a year ago, I took my daughter to see her first movie on the big screen. You can read her “Review of Frozen by a 3-year old” here. While a lot has changed in a year – she’s about an inch and a half taller and she can record shows on our DVR – I was a little skeptical about taking her to “Inside Out.”

The story on paper seems a little crazy. Five emotions – Joy, Sadness, Anger, Fear and Disgust – control the mind of Riley, an 11-year old girl who’s making a stressful move from Minnesota to San Francisco. No talking snowmen. No singing princesses. It just seemed like a lot of math. And a whole lot of post-movie questions that I was ill-equipped to answer.

Inside Out FearNot to mention all the tweets about the film being a real tearjerker. This was par for the course for director Pete Docter, who previously made us sob in public with “Up” (one of the saddest opening scenes ever) and “Monsters Inc.” (one of the best last scenes ever). Did I really want to subject my 4-year-old to that?

Well, I did. And this is what she said after she bounced out into the Ward lobby:

Did you like it?

Who was your favorite character?
I liked Fierce (she calls “Fear,” “Fierce”). And Joy.

Why did you like Fear?
Because he fell down and bonked his face.

What was your favorite part?
I forget.

What did you learn from the movie?
I don’t know.

But you liked it.

INSIDE OUT HeadquartersShe loved the film. It was dazzling, channeling the pure, visual creativity of Hayao Miyazaki (“My Neighbor Totoro,” “Spirited Away”) like no other Pixar film. It featured strong female characters like “Frozen.” It was funny and poignant. And I can honestly say, as a jaded, part-time screenwriter, I had no idea where the story was taking me.

And that’s the dirty little secret of “Inside Out.” While my daughter loved Anger going ballistic and the Dream-Boys saying, “I would die for Riley,” what she didn’t get was this was a movie that was really for PARENTS.

InsideOutSadnessIt’s a film about watching your child lose their innocence and transition to their teens. It’s about the fragility of memory and how ephemeral those moments are. It’s about how there can be no joy without sadness. And yes, there is one particular scene that really makes you long for some Kleenex. At that moment, out of nowhere, my 4-year-old actually reached up to feel my face. She wanted to see if I was crying. She wasn’t. But I sure was.

All that stuff flew way over her head. The scene where we get to see the emotions that control Riley’s parents was a true jab right at the parentals. We all know Joy controls the youthful Riley. But in her dad’s head, Anger runs the show. In her mom’s head, Sadness is in charge. It’s a bit cynical, but true. As grownups, we lose our Joy.

Inside Out JoyLast night, my daughter got out of bed, crying. She had left her favorite stuffed animal, “Boo” (the world’s cutest dog), at grandma’s house. I was in that precarious position that all parents find themselves in – having to say the right thing at the right time. I don’t remember what I said. “Take a deep breath.” “You’ll see him tomorrow.” “You’re a big girl.”

She eventually went to sleep, but about a half-hour later I thought of the perfect thing to say. The French have a word for this. “L’esprit de l’escalier,” the spirit of the stairway, where you think of the right thing to say just a little too late. What I should have said to my daughter was this:

“Find your Joy.”

It’s advice all parents could probably use for themselves.

Watch “Inside Out,” currently in theaters.